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By wilbur the bump
15 January 2009 14:31
This is my second baby and I am very scared of the birth as I had a third degree anal tear after having my daughter who was delivered by forceps. The tear wasn’t corrected until she was four months old and I was in agony for months. I have had mixed opinions from medical staff. The consultant says an elective c-section and midwife says I should have no further problems delivering naturally. Has anyone been through this and what did they do regarding the second delivery?
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What is my best option with this pregnancy to avoid another third degree anal tear?
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kittyphysio says
I can understand your concerns about tearing again. I am assuming that the consultant you are talking about works in obstetrics- you could ask to speak to a surgeon who specialises in Ano-Rectal surgery for a third opinion. They deal with the problems caused by third and fourth degree tears surgically if necessary- often many years after delivery. It might also be worth discussing with your GP, as they may be able to give you some facts and figures to help you decide. While you may have no further problems delivering naturally, can they quantify the risks of tearing again for you- scar tissue in general tends to be weaker than normal tissue. Hope this helps and the best of luck to you xx
22 January 2009 10:15
CathyWeasley says
(((HUGS))) I haven't really got any advice - I just wanted to say I can fully understand why you are so scared. Were you offered counselling after your bad birth experience? Do you think it would help to talk through it with someone? Your midwife says you should be able to deliver naturally but as you are so scared and confidence plays a big part in giving birth perhaps she could suggest some way of building your confidence through counselling/therapy/mental exercises or whatever she feels is appropriate. Your fears are very real and justifiable so I hope they are not dismissed by medical staff. Do you have to make a decision by a specific date? Can you go back on that decision if you change your mind? Ultimately remember that it is your decision (Consultants and midwives can sometimes get a bit competitive) Hope you get the birth you want and it goes well.
17 January 2009 15:48
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