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By laura_*_Caie
31 December 2008 01:05
I am 21 and I have a little boy Caie who will be two in Feb. I’m just looking for some advice on whether I should have another baby just now. We didn’t plan to have Caie, I was only 19 when I had him and my family were very disappointed. I think we have done a great job so far and my partner (23) started a new job six months ago and we are very happy. We both know we want another baby but are unsure if we should wait until we are all older or not? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Should me and my partner wait until we are older to have another baby?
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TRowberry says
Only you can answer that question. Me and my husband have a baby boy, Oscar who is 7months and have discovered i am pregnant again and due in August so there shall only be a 13month age gap between them. Although it is sooner than planned (we originally was going to wait 9months and then start trying for our 2nd) we always knew we wanted our kids close together. We always thought that having the children young, by the time they have grown up we are still young enough to have a life and do the things we want. there is never a right time to have a baby so you go for it and be happy despite what others may say.
08 March 2009 21:10
jules23 says
why wait? just be prepared, thats all i can say. i have 4 girls and im 23 my partner is 21. our girls are 18 week twins,17 months and 4 next month. after the second we wanted a boy but got 2 more girls not what we expected at all and its hard work but theyre worth it all. good luck whatever you decide
12 February 2009 21:56
sacha78 says
hello !! your age really should not come into it ,you seem to have your head screwed on and you haven't rushed into it already, i was 16 when i had my first child and everyone said i was too young and i wouldn't cope however i proved them all wrong married the father and we are still together my daughter is now 14, my second child was planned i was 20 and didn't want too big a gap between them, just before my 21st i had my third child and my fourth at 24, i have just had my fifth child aged 30, the only difference i have found is that i am less selfish than i was as a younger mum and i'm alot more emotional now than i was then, i wouldn't change anything if i could do it all again. i really do think that it doesn't matter how old you are if you are doing it for the right reasons then go for it... good luck whatever u decide xx
25 January 2009 23:20
chantell21 says
hi laura, yes i think the same as what sharon said it really is up to you and your partner when you want to try for a second child, you say your both happy so id say go for it its allways nice when there isnt a to bigger age gap, im 21 like you and am pregnant with my 1st am so excited good luck in whatever u decide to do x
09 January 2009 15:12
sharonhill12 says
hi laura u know what? its really up to you how you plan your family and when you want another baby. i had my 1st one when i was 21 and am 24 now and expecting my 2nd 1! its the way me and my husband planned it, so its up to u and ur partner. there is no book bout when u should have ur second baby! hope this helps.
08 January 2009 23:09
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