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By etoile
05 January 2010 14:10
I am a bit embarassed about this as it might sound like jealousy, but my 18 month baby girl seems to much prefer her daddy. I know this is a classic syndrome, but it does upset me quite a lot. Anyone else feel this way? Am I a terrible mother to think like this?!
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kelly99981 says
theres nothing to worry about just give her time and in the end she will want her mummy. my husband was just like u saying our daughter didnt want him but the more time he spent with her the quicker she got to know him and take to him. good luck.
01 August 2010 00:25
Cheesy says
O god don't worry about it i have been jealous for years there's nothing wrong with it, i have always felt like that but do you know what its all nonsense really its took me a few years to work it out but your kids will always love both parents, its just we all have our own way of doing things, i.e. playing,singing, rocking, feeding and at the end of the day you only ever get one mum so you will always have that bond, just enjoy being a mum and having lots of fun with your child i do as much as i can with my boy and when he see's his dad its his turn to play but i know he could never be without me
01 February 2010 14:05
Keljane says
OMG! I feel the same! I breastfeed my son and nursed him throughout the months when his Daddy was not there! But now my son's father has returned, it feels as though he prefers him to me! Sometimes i feel like a machine, I wash and dress him, feed him etc and he laughs and plays with his daddy and winges at me! So I am not on my own! Thank god for that! Keljane www.mummykmaternity.co.uk
OMG! I feel the same!
I breastfeed my son and nursed him throughout the months when his Daddy was not there! But now my son's father has returned, it feels as though he prefers him to me! Sometimes i feel like a machine, I wash and dress him, feed him etc and he laughs and plays with his daddy and winges at me!
So I am not on my own! Thank god for that!
Keljane
www.mummykmaternity.co.uk
28 January 2010 23:22
JodieT says
I bet you think this because your daughter smiles more at your husband & seems to respond more to him. My baby girl is exactly the same & it really bothers me at times. Especially when I'm the one waking in the night with her & looking after her all day long. I asked my Mum about this and she said that this is the way it is. Daddies play more & entertain more & so baby smiles more but she said she would guarantee that our baby does things with me that she doesn't do with her Dad, & she was right. My little girl looks at & touches my face so intently & she doesn't do that with anyone else. Try to remember ways that your daughter looks at you & then see if she does that with anyone else. I bet you'll soon notice a secret bond between yourselves. There is no bond stronger than that of a child & his/her Mother. Mother is the most important person in a child's life. No-one can replace you & she doesn't love anyone more than she loves you - you're her Mother!
24 January 2010 15:53
BiancaC says
It could be that dad provides more stimulation and feedback or is better at soothing. The key is not to take this personally, carry on being a good parent, work on building your connection with your baby, and this early favouritism will pass.
09 January 2010 13:40
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