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By Mother & Baby Magazine
Expert advice to help you relax while you're working at that baby. It’s very easy to be consumed by your desire to have a baby – especially if it’s taking longer than expected. "Don’t worry about worrying," says Nim Barnes, founder and director of the charity Foresight. "Some people say the stress of trying for a baby can affect your chances of success. But if you are thinking about having a baby every day, it doesn’t matter. If you follow the basic advice, not to drink, or smoke, and get some pre-conceptual advice, you’re in with a very good chance of getting pregnant."Pre-conceptual advice...Foods to avoid if you're trying for a babyTop tips for pre-conception healthOvulation explainedHow’s your sex life? If you find that you are only having sex when you’re ovulating, and have charts and thermometers by the bed, you should try to relax. "When couples start having sex in order to have a baby, the fun goes out of it, and anxiety creeps in," says Denise Knowles, spokesperson for Relate. "This anxiety and lack of fun can often spill over until after the baby arrives. And if the couple aren’t successful after months and months, sex can become a chore, not a pleasure. And we see many couples who have developed this kind of sexual aversion." Why not read...When's the best time to try for a baby?How to have baby- making sexFor all you Earth Mothers It can’t be proved, but some women report to having met their baby before he or she was born. Elisabeth Hallett has spoken to some of these women: "A woman involved in a car crash was struggling to stay alive, ready to give up, she heard a voice, "But what about me? I want to be born..." two years before she conceived."Elisabeth believes that ‘children exist before conception, and during pregnancy they are much more than a growing body.’Positive thinking and visualisation can help, too. In visualisation therapy, a patient is encouraged to create a picture in her mind that will act as a stimulus for positive feelings about self-image, health and future life. You can start by visualising a fresh, healthy egg, emerging from your ovaries, imagine your healthy uterus (womb), ripe for a child to dwell in... and so on. It’s easy once you get started, why not go for a swim or a run, and focus your mind on positive thoughts. See yourself conceiving, pregnant and, finally, holding your newborn. Visit your local alternative therapy centre or health food shop for books and therapists. Why not read...Top 10 natural fertility boostersTips for planning your next babyWhere to go for helpBritish Infertility Counselling Association
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